Presence not Presents

A few years ago we stopped buying Christmas presents.

Our family of 7 at the time were going on a very big ‘once-in-a-lifetime’ family trip around the world ending with a family wedding in San Diego. We were all saving like crazy so we decided no presents would make it easier on the budget of the younger adults who were still at university.

I was worried about how this would ‘feel’ on Christmas Day. It was fabulous!

We learned a very valuable lesson. The one we all know but sometimes take for granted.

It’s never about the gifts; it’s about each other.

What a great day we had!

Less is more. The less we fussed over what to buy the more we focussed on the ‘togetherness’. I couldn’t tell you what my kids bought me for Christmas in 2011 or 2007 for that matter but I can tell you how much it means to be with them on that day, watching them happy and healthy and having that special day to be grateful and to be part of ‘family’. There’s usually one or two extras at our table sharing in the joy and that in itself is far more precious than a new blender, socks or even favourite perfume.

I do support the local retailers throughout the year and I know that it’s important but at Christmas the ‘present fund’ now goes to those less fortunate.

This year it’s Aleppo. It’s also heartening to see on my local community face book page that the neighbours are donating Christmas gifts and food hampers to families who may be struggling. Wonderful!

My best presents ever are people and in particular my kids and husband. Can’t think of anything more precious.

Merry Christmas



Published by buythedamndress

After 32 years of teaching I'm now full time in the business world, developing a business that I've had for 21 years and launching my online magazine Love it all!

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