We should never underestimate, overlook, sell short, undervalue or ignore the power and need for human connection. Especially at Christmas, actually, because of Christmas.
While we’re running around trying to find matching serviettes, enough cutlery for the table, driving to the mall to buy one more roll of wrapping paper because the final present is 1cm longer than what’s left on the roll and all the other stresses that someone decided must happen at Christmas, let’s all just STOP.
Remember what is important
Christmas is a time of human connection, of families, of people, of love. It really is as simple as that.
Our immediate family have a 100% agreed and committed rule; whenever we can we must attend each others birthdays and be present on Christmas day. Our language of love is presence rather than presents. (Retailers I do want you to do well and I certainly support you at other times of the year because we do buy each other spontaneous ‘this is perfect for you’ gifts)
This has worked out very well for us, apart from my eldest son’s birthday this year. He turned 31 and I was in Spain. Of course, we made him a ridiculous video singing happy birthday badly but I felt bad. What I should have felt was grateful that I’ve been there to share 30 other birthdays with him.
So today when I was in wet slidey traffic in an overcrowded mall carpark surrounded by drivers who had their ‘invisible to other cars’ magic glasses on and had forgotten that their indicators are not Christmas lights, I decided to keep my ‘Merry Christmas’ demeanour, smiled and waved and decided to go home instead of find a park. Damn the stress. To hell with the stress in fact! I felt empowered and pleased with myself.
Tomorrow I have my husband and the best things I’ve ever made, my children, with me to remember all that is important. There will be phone calls between my siblings and Mother, there will be texts and messages from our overseas loved ones.
Loved ones. “Ones who are loved.” I hope everyone has this.
To those who are reading this, whether I know you or not, please know that you are a valuable person, unique, incredible (flaws and all). You count and I want to take time to acknowledge that (rather than drive around malls in a frenzy!) This is more important, it’s about people and connection.
Let’s hope Santa brings something for all children but most importantly let’s hope every human feels recognised and validated at least at Christmas. Pass it on..pay it forward…call it what you want but this time of year is perfect for letting everyone know.